On this season 2 finale, DJ Chuang shares highlights from the year of 2018, that is, the first 2 seasons of Erasing Shame, plus the special summer series on Erasing Shame about Mental Health in Asian American Communities. This episode wraps up with a Top 10 Countdown of the most popular episodes that you won’t want to miss.
Real feelings don’t always tell the truth. Dave Dicken is a Crisis Counselor at Crisis Text Line and he shares a bunch of very practical tips for how to help yourself or someone you know to have courage, find resilience, and get healing.
When the pain is overwhelming, it doesn’t have to be a crisis. There’s no shame in asking for help. It doesn’t require a doctor’s visit or talking on the phone.
Just text. Text HOME to 741741 (in the USA) and know you’re not alone. Tell someone you care about to do this any time they feel the pain is too much to bear and want help. In Canada, text HOME to 686868 for help at your fingertips.
David Dicken email [email protected]
Youtube channel for Make Someone Great Today
Crisis Text Line www.crisistextline.org
Singles already know they’re single. They don’t need pressure or shame, especially around the holidays. DJ Chuang and Maylee Chang Tao talk about this personal and poignant topic that affects like 50% of the adult population.
Grace Sangalang Ng is our special guest. Grace is a Ed.D. student (Talbot School of Theology) researching how shame affects Asian Americans in the classroom, so she is more than well qualified to talk intelligibly about shame. She also shares from her own experiences of shame as a second-generation Filipino-American.
DJ Chuang hosts this episode. But, he forgot to ask her about Pinoy.
Also, Grace Sangalang Ng is a contributor at The Two Cities blog.
We give thanks for you, our viewers and listeners, as we enter the holiday season at the end of 2018. Holidays are family and relatives; and those memories can bring mixed emotions, highs and lows, amidst all the food and feasting. Maylee Chang and DJ Chuang talk about what those experiences might be like, especially when shame shows up, and how you can stay healthy and sane to better enjoy the holidays.
Margaret Yu (National Director of Epic Movement, the Asian American ministry of Cru) talks with DJ Chuang about how leaders can be debilitated by shame and become derailed. Not good. But there’s an antidote to shame that can help the leader to be honest with their humanity, to confess the occasional mistake, and to recover their rational capacity in order to better serve the organization, people, and community.
Connect with Margaret Yu margaretyu.com and on Twitter @CCCEPICMargaret
Dr. Kristin Neff (University of Texas at Austin) has posted resources at self-compassion.org. Take this self-compassion test to see how self compassionate you are.
“… breakthrough research done on self-compassion by researcher and social psychologist Kristin Neff from the University of Texas at Austin. Among other things, Neff discovered that self-compassion can act as an antidote to self-criticism—a major characteristic of those who experience intense shame.” from “How Compassion Can Heal Shame from Childhood: The Antidote to Shame” in Psychology Today, 2013.
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Kristin Neff, PhD (2015)
Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown: The link between guilt-proneness and leadership by Rebecca L. Schaumberg, Francis J. Flynn.
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. August 2012, 103:2, 327-342.
Why Feelings of Guilt May Signal Leadership Potential (Insights by Stanford Business, 2012) refers to the Schaumberg research above.
Although “guilt” and “shame” may seem quite similar to most people — and both are indeed negative responses to knowing you did something wrong — psychologists recognize a crucial distinction between the two: Whereas someone who feels guilty feels bad about a specific mistake and wants to make amends, a person who’s ashamed of a mistake feels bad about himself or herself and shrinks away from the error.
Maylee Chang and DJ Chuang grapple with understanding both the positive and the negative aspects of shame. Yes, of course, shame is a painful feeling. But it so much more than that. Towards the end of the episode, we count up at least 5 positive aspects of shame when respond with honest talk and healthy choices.
Maylee Chang and DJ Chuang have an honest talk about how refugees experience the hardest life challenges, resulting in trauma, and how some are able to move out of survival mode and towards a healthier life of relationships and dealing with past memories
On this episode of Erasing Shame, Dr. Pang Rhodes joins host DJ Chuang to have an honest talk about Hmong Americans, community, and shame.
Dr. Pang Foua Yang Rhodes is an Assistant Professor at Argosy University and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializing in premarital and couples therapy, spiritual development, and immigrant mental health. She has a doctorate in Family Social Science from the University of Minnesota and a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy from Fuller Theological Seminary.
Dr. Pang Rhodes’ blog is at www.drpangfoua.com
Dr. Rhodes gave a popular talk, “Secrets from “the Other Woman: What Wives Can Do to Create a Healthy Marriage” at the 2013 Empowering Hmong Women’s Conference