Why and How Honest Conversations are Erasing Shame

Since shame festers in silence, the opposite is that healthy talk will break thru and start erasing shame about mental health and other secrets that make us sick.

Hear the back story of why we launched the Erasing Shame podcast, with no budget and no staff at that. Co-Founder DJ Chuang explains how people can learn to have honest and healthy talk about unspoken feelings by listening to others share their personal stories and lived experiences.

This episode was recorded before a live workshop audience at the 2nd annual Mental Health Conference Cal State Fullerton on March 9, 2019. 

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[Seen 4] A Conversation About Postpartum Depression and Anxiety

“When we’re talking about shame—and so much of shame manifests itself in silence and what we don’t say and what we don’t share—to find the courage and bravery within yourself to put these things out there, that you’re having a hard time and you need help… That’s strong, that’s being a strong mom. That’s doing your work to face shame.” —Emily Schnitger, LMFT

On this episode of “Seen: An Erasing Shame Podcast,” Eunice connects with Emily Schnitger, a therapist who specializes in maternal mental health and is trained in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.

Postpartum depression can be as stigmatized in our culture as mental health in general because our families often do not have the language to discuss this topic. Emily provides insight and experience working with new moms, and advice on how to support moms who may struggle with postpartum.

Show Notes

To contact Emily: relatetherapy.com/emilyschnitger.html

Postpartum Support International: www.postpartum.net

Identifying Cultural Shame in Your Life (s3e05)

Are you fully embracing your physical & cultural identity? Or are you possibly carrying cultural shame and self-hatred? When you deny a part of your physical/cultural makeup, you are denying the beautiful person you were born to be, both inside and out. Begin to embrace all parts of who you are in order to live true to your identity, free of shame.

If your family history has dysfunction and trauma (s3e04)

Shame is a hefty word. The complexities get greater as you unpack it. To unravel that shame is a lifetime process and that’s when the adventure begins.

Irene Cho poignantly opens up about her lived experiences of erasing shame, dealing with her imperfections, discovering her family history, and why immigrant Asian parents are the way they are.

Show Notes

findingtheinbetween.com
Follow on Twitter @irenemcho
Like on Facebook facebook.com/irenemcho

Healthy ways to release painful and toxic emotions (s3e03)

What happens when we don’t process our emotions? Pent up emotional toxicity weighs us down in our body, mind and spirit. Emotions are meant to be fully processed and follow a full course of action within our physical body, and then be released outward from our body into productive spaces/activities. When the expression of those natural emotions become suppressed, our mind and bodies will process them in unhealthy ways. Here’s a first step to learning about healthy ways to releasing toxic energy and emotions for a healthier mind and body.

Show Notes

Psychology: 

80% of Thoughts are Negative… 95% are Repetitive

How Negative Emotions Can Affect Your Health

Ignoring Your Emotions Is Bad for Your Health. Here’s What to Do About It (Time Magazine, February 2018)

63 Days to Build Habits and Long Term Memories

A Complete Guide to Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

How to create positive affirmations for your life:

80 Powerful Affirmations That Could Change Your Life (mindvalley blog)

5 Steps to Make Affirmations Work for You: Learn how to make affirmations work for you. (Psychology Today)

Life Skills International; Life Skills San Diego

What Brené Brown Overlooks about Shame (s3e02)

There’s so much more to shame than just feeling bad or unworthy. Chinese American blogger Fred Mok (a pastor at Garden City Church, San Jose, California) shares poignant insights from Asian and Asian American cultures that reveal other dimensions of shame that are objective, communal, and relational.

Show Notes

Fred Mok’s blog post— How Asian Americans Misunderstand Shame

Fred blogs at breadbeforerice.blogspot.com

Note to Brené Brown

Brené, we love your work, we really do! Know that you have an open invite here at Erasing Shame. We know you are working very hard on many things, so please do stay healthy and have good self-care.

When you have 5 minutes to spare and call in, we’re here for you: leave a voice mail at our number 619-493-0597 or click on the right sidebar to send a voice message.

Growing and Thriving – Season 3 Opener

Season 3 opener with co-hosts DJ Chuang and Nancy Ly, introductions and overview of what’s coming up in this new season of Erasing Shame.

Show Notes

Facebook Group: Erasing Shame… One Story at a Time

Text or call the Erasing Shame Hotline at (619) 493-0597 and leave a…

  • text message
  • picture of something you have written
  • voicemail

Be a part of the movement and share your stories of shame, overcoming and freedom! Your story matters & has the ability to unlock healing in so many others! The more people share, the more we can normalize the conversation and thereby help each other become a healthier version of ourselves and for a healthier world. 

Shame can only be overcome by replacing it with compassion and love, so this is intended to be a safe community for you to continue your healing journey. 

Asian American Mental Health Documentaries

Mental health and mental illness are very challenging topics to talk about or discuss, especially among Asians, Asian Americans and Asian Pacific Islanders. Real-life stories portrayed in films and movies can powerfully help people to start those discussions, to address these matters in an indirect way, and towards erasing shame.

Award-winning speaker and advocate Emily Wu Troung compiles this list of film documentaries about Asian Americans and mental health. Posted with permission. Thank you Emily! (show your thanks and like her Facebook page)

Film Documentaries that cover API Mental Health

[planned] “Things I Never Said” is a documentary seeking to inspire API groups to open up about their mental health issues. They’re raising funds for production costs via an Indiegogo crowdfunding in February-March 2019.

“Looking for Luke” by Eric I-Hwa Lu & Elaine Coin
Website: http://lookingforlukefilm.com
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/lookingforlukefilm

“Unbroken Glass” by Dinesh Sabu
Website: http://www.unbrokenglassfilm.com
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/UnbrokenGlassFilm/
Watch online @ worldchannel.org/episode/unbroken-glass/

Wong Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest” by Kristina Wong Website: http://www.flyingwong.com
Trailer here: http://www.flyingwong.com/trailer.html
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/flyingwong

“The S Word” by Lisa Klein 
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/SuiDoc/
Website: https://theswordmovie.com/

Voices: Human & Untold Stories of Psychosis” by Gary Tsai & Hiroshi Hara
Trailer here: http://voicesdocumentary.com
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/voicesdocumentary

Can” by Pearl J. Park 
Trailer here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V720lROtoPE
Website: http://www.amongourkin.org/

The Laundromat” by Vanessa Yee 
Website: http://www.atthelaundromat.com
Trailer here: https://vimeo.com/37093248
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TheLaundromatDocumentary

“Adultolescence” by Vicky Shen
Website: http://adultolescence.net/
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/adultolescence/

The House of Suh” by Iris K. Shim
Website: http://thehouseofsuh.com 
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/thehouseofsuh
Free viewing on Hulu here: http://www.hulu.com/watch/527813

Children of the Camps” by Dr. Satsuki Ina 
http://www.pbs.org/childofcamp/documentary/

The Cats of Mirikitani” by Linda Hattendorf & Masa Yoshikawa 
http://www.thecatsofmirikitani.com

Dialogues with Madwomen” by Allie Light 
http://www.wmm.com/filmcatalog/pages/c141.shtml

Who’s Going to Pay for These Donuts, Anyway?” by Janice Tanaka 
http://www.wmm.com/filmcatalog/pages/c112.shtml

Raymond’s Portrait” by Donald C. Young 
http://www.fanlight.com/catalog/films/267_rp.php

AAPI Mental Health Resources

The following are resources listed at this page of mental health resources for people of color, curated by the American Psychological Association (APA) :

[Seen 3]: Hollywood Representation & Crazy Rich Asians

On this episode of “Seen: An Erasing Shame Podcast,” Senior Reporter at the Hollywood Reporter Rebecca Sun joins Eunice Lee to discuss the history of Asian-American representation in the media, the effects of whitewashing, and the triumph of seeing Asian-American representation on screen.

“Onscreen representation matters. It gives words or it gives visuals to experiences that we feel, and it validates them. It’s literally like a mirror. Why do we check ourselves out in a mirror? To make sure that what we are feeling is what’s indeed being presented, understood and conveyed accurately. And so when you don’t have representation, it’s like you’ve been walking through this world without a mirror. You are completely not in control of how you’re being perceived.”

– Rebecca Sun

*** CORRECTION: the podcast Eunice mentioned is called “They Call Us Bruce” by Phil Yu and Jeff Yang

Resources

Angry Asian Man – angryasianman.com

Coalition of Asian Pacifics in Entertainment – capeusa.org

Reel Inequality: Hollywood Actors and Racism” by Nancy Wang Yuen #book

Behind the Scenes at The Hollywood Reporter’s ‘Crazy Rich Asians’ Cover Shoot” in The Hollywood Reporter (August 2, 2018) #article

Ramona Rosales/Carol McColgin
(Photo Credit: Ramona Rosales/Carol McColgin)

Season 2 Finale of Erasing Shame

On this season 2 finale, DJ Chuang shares highlights from the year of 2018, that is, the first 2 seasons of Erasing Shame, plus the special summer series on Erasing Shame about Mental Health in Asian American Communities. This episode wraps up with a Top 10 Countdown of the most popular episodes that you won’t want to miss.

Quick Links

Season 1 of Erasing Shame

Summer Series: Erasing Shame about Mental Health in Asian American Communities

Season 2 of Erasing Shame