How I was living a big lie! Learn about the impact of shame on truth, lies, and how to receive the best for yourself in this life.
Michelle Yang was a very successful teenager on paper. Michelle was outgoing, earned excellent grades, and worked hard at her immigrant family’s small restaurant. Her constant battle with depression, anxiety and insomnia was less obvious to the world. The stigma against mental health conditions, especially within her family, prevented her from accessing proper help for years.
Finally, while studying abroad during college, she suffered from a serious episode that led to her being diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Michelle now wants to break that stigma and encourage others by sharing her own story of how a successful career, a happy family and a good life is more than possible.
From personal experience, she knows why Asian Americans are three times less likely than other people in this country to seek help for mental health. Now, she’s writing a book to advocate for mental health wellness.
- Michelle Yang’s blog livingwellhappily.com
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- Follow on Twitter @michellehyang
Since shame festers in silence, the opposite is that healthy talk will break thru and start erasing shame about mental health and other secrets that make us sick.
Hear the back story of why we launched the Erasing Shame podcast, with no budget and no staff at that. Co-Founder DJ Chuang explains how people can learn to have honest and healthy talk about unspoken feelings by listening to others share their personal stories and lived experiences.
This episode was recorded before a live workshop audience at the 2nd annual Mental Health Conference Cal State Fullerton on March 9, 2019.
- Season 1 Opener with Eunice Lee
- Season 2 Opener with Maylee Chang
- Korean American Pressures to be Perfect – Andrew Min
- Erasing Shame about Mental Health in Asian American Communities (2018 summer series)
“When we’re talking about shame—and so much of shame manifests itself in silence and what we don’t say and what we don’t share—to find the courage and bravery within yourself to put these things out there, that you’re having a hard time and you need help… That’s strong, that’s being a strong mom. That’s doing your work to face shame.” —Emily Schnitger, LMFT
On this episode of “Seen: An Erasing Shame Podcast,” Eunice connects with Emily Schnitger, a therapist who specializes in maternal mental health and is trained in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.
Postpartum depression can be as stigmatized in our culture as mental health in general because our families often do not have the language to discuss this topic. Emily provides insight and experience working with new moms, and advice on how to support moms who may struggle with postpartum.
To contact Emily: relatetherapy.com/emilyschnitger.html
Postpartum Support International: www.postpartum.net
Are you fully embracing your physical & cultural identity? Or are you possibly carrying cultural shame and self-hatred? When you deny a part of your physical/cultural makeup, you are denying the beautiful person you were born to be, both inside and out. Begin to embrace all parts of who you are in order to live true to your identity, free of shame.
Shame is a hefty word. The complexities get greater as you unpack it. To unravel that shame is a lifetime process and that’s when the adventure begins.
Irene Cho poignantly opens up about her lived experiences of erasing shame, dealing with her imperfections, discovering her family history, and why immigrant Asian parents are the way they are.
What happens when we don’t process our emotions? Pent up emotional toxicity weighs us down in our body, mind and spirit. Emotions are meant to be fully processed and follow a full course of action within our physical body, and then be released outward from our body into productive spaces/activities. When the expression of those natural emotions become suppressed, our mind and bodies will process them in unhealthy ways. Here’s a first step to learning about healthy ways to releasing toxic energy and emotions for a healthier mind and body.
- 80% of Thoughts are Negative… 95% are Repetitive
- How Negative Emotions Can Affect Your Health
- Ignoring Your Emotions Is Bad for Your Health. Here’s What to Do About It (Time Magazine, February 2018)
- 63 Days to Build Habits and Long Term Memories
- A Complete Guide to Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
How to create positive affirmations for your life:
There’s so much more to shame than just feeling bad or unworthy. Chinese American blogger Fred Mok (a pastor at Garden City Church, San Jose, California) shares poignant insights from Asian and Asian American cultures that reveal other dimensions of shame that are objective, communal, and relational.
Fred Mok’s blog post— How Asian Americans Misunderstand Shame
Fred blogs at breadbeforerice.blogspot.com
Note to Brené Brown
Brené, we love your work, we really do! Know that you have an open invite here at Erasing Shame. We know you are working very hard on many things, so please do stay healthy and have good self-care.
When you have 5 minutes to spare and call in, we’re here for you: leave a voice mail at our number 619-493-0597 or click on the right sidebar to send a voice message.
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Be a part of the movement and share your stories of shame, overcoming and freedom! Your story matters & has the ability to unlock healing in so many others! The more people share, the more we can normalize the conversation and thereby help each other become a healthier version of ourselves and for a healthier world.
Shame can only be overcome by replacing it with compassion and love, so this is intended to be a safe community for you to continue your healing journey.
Mental health and mental illness are very challenging topics to talk about or discuss, especially among Asians, Asian Americans and Asian Pacific Islanders. Real-life stories portrayed in films and movies can powerfully help people to start those discussions, to address these matters in an indirect way, and towards erasing shame.
Award-winning speaker and advocate Emily Wu Troung compiles this list of film documentaries about Asian Americans and mental health. Posted with permission. Thank you Emily! (show your thanks and like her Facebook page)
Films & Documentaries re: API Mental Health
[planned] “Things I Never Said” is a documentary seeking to inspire API groups to open up about their mental health issues. They’re raising funds for production costs via an Indiegogo crowdfunding in February-March 2019.
“Children of the Camps” by Dr. Satsuki Ina
“The Cats of Mirikitani” by Linda Hattendorf & Masa Yoshikawa
“Dialogues with Madwomen” by Allie Light
“Who’s Going to Pay for These Donuts, Anyway?” by Janice Tanaka
“Raymond’s Portrait” by Donald C. Young
AAPI Mental Health Resources
The following are resources listed at this page of mental health resources for people of color, curated by the American Psychological Association (APA) :
- National Asian American Pacific Islander Mental Health Association (NAAPIMHA) @ Denver, CO
- Association of Asian Pacific Community Health Organizations @ Washington, D.C.
- Asian American Health Initiative, Montgomery County Department of Health and Human Services @ Rockville, MD
Also see this list of top articles about Asian American mental health.