Top 3 Reasons People Get Help: Episode 14

On this episode, Fannie Tam, licensed family counselor, brings a unique and valuable perspective from both Asian and American cultures along with many years of experiences in helping people out of their issues of shame. We cover a wide range of topics, including the reasons people get help, how to motivate people to get help before things are too desperate, how getting counseling doesn’t make you less Asian, though it is counter-cultural and healthy, and more.

Show Notes

Like the Facebook page for Fannie Tam’s Grace Christian Counselling at

Book recommendations:

Breaking Free of Generational Addictions: Episode 13

Close-knit community culture and trauma can intensify cycles of shame and addiction. Psychotherapist Sam Louie shares insights on how to break free.

Show Notes

What’s so bad about sex addiction? Episode 12 with Roy Kim

Let’s talk about sex. Therapist Roy Kim will share with us his perspectives on human sexuality and what to do when it becomes harmful and shameful.

Show Notes

Roy Kim – Licensed Family & Marriage Therapist

The Same Boat podcast on iTunes – there are others in the same boat as you and who handled difficult circumstances imperfectly, experiencing healing and grace


Moving from Shame to Self-Compassion: Episode 11

Our special guest Dr. Lisa Chu shares her perspectives about facing shame head-on and moving toward self-compassion and authenticity

Show Notes

  • Connect with Dr. Lisa Chu at her website
  • Tian Dayton’s books and videos on Relational Trauma Repair, Emotional Sobriety, ACOA Trauma Syndrome, and Neuropsychodrama
  • Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child
  • Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
  • Pema Chodron: The Wisdom of No Escape, and When Things Fall Apart
  • Martha Beck’s Steering by Starlight, The Joy Diet, and Finding Your Own North Star
  • Byron Katie’s The Work (videos, not books)
  • Breema bodywork and Breema’s 9 Principles of Harmony
  • Gail Larsen’s Real Speaking workshop and her book, Transformational Speaking
  • Sam Louie’s books: Asian Shame and Addiction, Slanted Eyes (poetry)
  • Amy Tan’s recent memoir, Where The Past Begins
  • Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
  • The Artist’s Way, by Julia Cameron
  • Wild Mind (or any book) by Natalie Goldberg
  • One Hundred Demons (or any book since 2008) by Lynda Barry
  • Inspiration Sandwich (or any book) by SARK
  • The Listening Book by W.A. Mathieu
  • Poems by Mary Oliver, David Whyte, Rainer Maria Rilke, Rumi
  • Music by Silvia Nakkach, David Darling, John Beaulieu
  • Tibetan Sound Healing by Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche


Parenting without shame: Episode 10

Special guest Iris Chen describers herself as a “deconstructing tiger mother.” She joins us on Erasing Shame to have an honest talk about parenting well and recovering from the tiger parenting generation. You’ll hear about her fascinating approach of  parenting and unschooling. Yes, both at the same time.

Show Notes

Iris Chen blogs at
Facebook Page:
Facebook Group:
Twitter: @untigeringmom

Handling Questions about Shame: Episode 9

We change the pace on this episode. No special guest interview. No co-host. Just one host. DJ Chuang takes some questions from Quora (an expert community) and answers them honestly.

Show Notes

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline’s Online Chat / phone 800-273-8255
  • Los Angeles Co. Mental Health/Crisis Line……..800-854-7771
  • Suicide Prevention Center (24 Hours)…….213-381-5111
  • Suicide Prevention Crisis Center…….310-391-1253 (24 Hours)
  • NAMI Helpline National Alliance for the Mentally Ill 1-800-950-NAMI
  • National Youth Crisis Hotline 1-800-448-4663
  • National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-25-ABUSE
  • National Mental Health Assn. Provides free information on specific disorders, referral directory to mental health providers, national directory of local mental health associations 1-800-969-6642 (M-F, 9-5 EST)
  • National Institute of Mental Health Information Line: Provides information and literature on mental illness by disorder-for professionals and general public. 1-800-647-2642


A community without shame? Episode 8

Eunice Lee talks with Liz Lin of Progressive Asian American Christians about how shame plays a role in Asian-American and immigrant faith communities, and what it could look like to have an Asian-American faith community that isn’t shame-based. Whether you’re conservative, progressive, religious or not, this is a very cool episode!

Show Notes

Liz Lin’s website + @curiousliz on Twitter

Liz Lin’s articles at The Salt Collective

Progressive Asian American Christians: website + Facebook group

A crowd-sourced list of Asian American therapists

Breaking Free of Shame and Anxiety: Episode 7

There are so many things to be anxious about in today’s world. And when that’s connected to shame, whether because of relationships with others or one’s own personal self-image, life can be overwhelming and paralyzing. Eunice Lee interviews our special guest, Dr. Martin Hsia (OCD, Anxiety, and Insomnia Specialist) and have an honest talk about how to break free and experience a better quality of life.

Show Notes

Dr. Martin Hsia + Facebook Page

Psych Rally Podcast: Therapy, Mental Health, Real Life

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Southern California

Moments of Meaning videos – demystifying psychotherapy by having real therapists tell real stories about what really happens in psychotherapy. Powerful repository of human transformation to encourage deeper engagement within human relationships and life.

How can feeling the need to perform on the outside keep shame hidden on the inside? (s1e06)

Host Eunice Lee is joined with Natalie Hsieh on Season 1 Episode 6 of Erasing Shame: Honest talk for healthy living. Natalie personally shares her experiencing shame as the pain of feeling “alone” or “outside” of a community, or even outside yourself. It’s a journey going from struggling in the midst of a performance-driven culture and discovering a better way to relate and connect with that community.

After a Month of Talking about Shame: Episode 5

Eunice Lee and DJ Chuang return from a week’s break and reflect on the first month of podcasting on this topic of shame: how much bigger it is than we first imagined, what kind of response we’ve heard, and an invitation for you to share your stories with us—whether confidentially, anonymously, or publicly. Contact us on this website or via Facebook Messenger.