What do you wish someone would have told you? (Episode 15)

Adulting is not easy. Annie Choi (owner of Found Coffee) shares her 3 wishes‚ÄĒfor what she wished someone would have told her about life after college. She talks about her life experiences with careers, gratitude and failure.

Beyond the formalities, this episode is just two Korean-American ladies joking around and having real talk about culture, transparency, career change and failing well. If you’re Korean-American or hang out with Korean-Americans, this one’s for you ūüėÄ

Show Notes

Found Coffee is on Instagram @foundcoffeela + Facebook facebook.com/foundcoffeela + Twitter @foundcoffeela

Top 3 Reasons People Get Help: Episode 14

On this episode, Fannie Tam, licensed family counselor, brings a unique and valuable perspective from both Asian and American cultures along with many years of experiences in helping people out of their issues of shame. We cover a wide range of topics, including the reasons people get help, how to motivate people to get help before things are too desperate, how getting counseling doesn’t make you less Asian, though it is counter-cultural and healthy, and more.

Show Notes

Like the Facebook page for Fannie Tam’s Grace Christian Counselling at¬†facebook.com/fannie.lftam

Book recommendations:

Breaking Free of Generational Addictions: Episode 13

Close-knit community culture and trauma can intensify cycles of shame and addiction. Psychotherapist Sam Louie shares insights on how to break free.

Show Notes

What’s so bad about sex addiction? Episode 12 with Roy Kim

Let’s talk about sex. Therapist Roy Kim will share with us his perspectives on human sexuality and what to do when it becomes harmful and shameful.

Show Notes

Roy Kim http://roykimtherapy.com РLicensed Family & Marriage Therapist

The Same Boat podcast on iTunes¬†–¬†there are others in the same boat as you and¬†who handled difficult circumstances imperfectly, experiencing healing and grace


Moving from Shame to Self-Compassion: Episode 11

Our special guest Dr. Lisa Chu shares her perspectives about facing shame head-on and moving toward self-compassion and authenticity

Show Notes

  • Connect with Dr. Lisa Chu at her website themusicwithinus.com
  • Tian Dayton’s books and videos on Relational Trauma Repair, Emotional Sobriety, ACOA Trauma Syndrome, and Neuropsychodrama
  • Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child
  • Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
  • Pema Chodron: The Wisdom of No Escape, and When Things Fall Apart
  • Martha Beck’s Steering by Starlight, The Joy Diet, and Finding Your Own North Star
  • Byron Katie’s The Work (videos, not books)
  • Breema bodywork and Breema’s 9 Principles of Harmony
  • Gail Larsen’s Real Speaking workshop and her book, Transformational Speaking
  • Sam Louie’s books: Asian Shame and Addiction, Slanted Eyes (poetry)
  • Amy Tan’s recent memoir, Where The Past Begins
  • Amy Chua’s Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
  • The Artist’s Way, by Julia Cameron
  • Wild Mind (or any book) by Natalie Goldberg
  • One Hundred Demons (or any book since 2008) by Lynda Barry
  • Inspiration Sandwich (or any book) by SARK
  • The Listening Book by W.A. Mathieu
  • Poems by Mary Oliver, David Whyte, Rainer Maria Rilke, Rumi
  • Music by Silvia Nakkach, David Darling, John Beaulieu
  • Tibetan Sound Healing by Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche


Parenting without shame: Episode 10

Special guest Iris Chen describers herself as a¬†“deconstructing tiger mother.” She joins us on Erasing Shame to have an honest talk about parenting well and recovering from the tiger parenting generation. You’ll hear about her¬†fascinating approach of¬† parenting and unschooling. Yes, both at the same time.

Show Notes

Iris Chen blogs at www.untigering.com
Facebook Page: facebook.com/untigering
Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/UntigeringParents
Twitter: @untigeringmom

Handling Questions about Shame: Episode 9

We change the pace on this episode. No special guest interview. No co-host. Just one host. DJ Chuang takes some questions from Quora (an expert community) and answers them honestly.

Show Notes

  • National¬†Suicide Prevention Lifeline’s¬†Online Chat¬†/ phone¬†800-273-8255
  • Los Angeles Co. Mental Health/Crisis Line……..800-854-7771
  • Suicide Prevention Center (24 Hours)…….213-381-5111
  • Suicide Prevention Crisis Center…….310-391-1253 (24 Hours)
  • NAMI Helpline National Alliance for the Mentally Ill 1-800-950-NAMI
  • National Youth Crisis Hotline 1-800-448-4663
  • National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-25-ABUSE
  • National Mental Health Assn. Provides free information on specific disorders, referral directory to mental health providers, national directory of local mental health associations 1-800-969-6642 (M-F, 9-5 EST)
  • National Institute of Mental Health Information Line: Provides information and literature on mental illness by disorder-for professionals and general public. 1-800-647-2642


A community without shame? Episode 8

Eunice Lee talks with Liz Lin of Progressive Asian American Christians about how shame plays a role in Asian-American and immigrant faith communities, and what it could look like to have an Asian-American faith community that isn’t shame-based. Whether you’re conservative, progressive, religious or not, this is a very cool episode!

Show Notes

Liz Lin’s website¬†mynameiselizabeth.com¬†+ @curiousliz on Twitter

Liz Lin’s articles at The Salt Collective

Progressive Asian American Christians: website + Facebook group

A crowd-sourced list of Asian American therapists

Breaking Free of Shame and Anxiety: Episode 7

There are so many things to be anxious about in today’s world. And when that’s connected to shame, whether because of relationships with others or one’s own personal self-image, life can be overwhelming and paralyzing. Eunice Lee interviews our special guest, Dr. Martin Hsia (OCD, Anxiety, and Insomnia Specialist) and have an honest talk about how to break free and experience a better quality of life.

Show Notes

Dr. Martin Hsia MartinHsia.com + Facebook Page facebook.com/MartinHsiaPsyD

Psych Rally Podcast: Therapy, Mental Health, Real Life PsychRallyPodcast.com

Cognitive Behavior Therapy Center of Southern California CBTSoCal.com

Moments of Meaning videos¬†–¬†demystifying psychotherapy by having real therapists tell real stories about what really happens in psychotherapy. Powerful repository of human transformation to encourage deeper engagement within human relationships and life.

How can feeling the need to perform on the outside keep shame hidden on the inside? (s1e06)

Host Eunice Lee is joined with Natalie Hsieh on Season 1 Episode 6 of Erasing Shame: Honest talk for healthy living. Natalie personally shares her experiencing shame as the pain of feeling “alone” or “outside” of a community, or even outside yourself. It’s a journey going from struggling in the midst of a performance-driven culture and discovering a better way to relate and connect with that community.