This Episode Will Challenge EVERYTHING You Thought You Knew About Forgiveness! We’ve all heard it: “You HAVE to forgive AND reconcile.” But is that really what the Bible says?
If you’ve ever felt pressured to restore a relationship that wasn’t safe… If you’ve struggled with guilt for enforcing boundaries… If you’ve been told, “But that’s your FAMILY, you have to make peace,”—this episode is for YOU.
We’re diving into the TRUTH about biblical forgiveness, debunking harmful misconceptions, and giving you the freedom to heal on God’s terms, not people’s expectations.
What You’ll Get from This Episode
- The TRUTH about forgiveness vs. reconciliation (spoiler: they’re NOT the same! Even JESUS forgave but didn’t reconcile with everyone)
- How churches and families unknowingly SHAME people into unsafe reconciliation
- The Bible verses people MISUSE to pressure you—and how to lovingly respond
- Practical steps to forgive WITHOUT re-entering a toxic cycle
- The hidden dangers of forcing unity when true reconciliation isn’t possible
- How trusting God’s justice can free you—even when they never say “sorry”
GAME-CHANGING Bible Passages
- Matthew 18:15-17 – What Jesus actually teaches about handling conflict
- Mark 3:31-35 – When Jesus set boundaries with HIS OWN family!
- Galatians 1:10 – Pleasing God vs. pleasing people
REAL TALK: What We’re Answering
- Why does the church pressure people to reconcile at all costs?
- How do you heal when guilt keeps creeping in?
- How do you respond when someone accuses you of being “unloving” for setting boundaries?
- Can you TRULY forgive someone but still say NO to reconciliation? (YES! And we’re breaking it down!)
- What happens when reconciliation is FORCED instead of Spirit-led?
Meet Our Guest: Hannah Lee
We’re honored to welcome Hannah Lee, a 2nd-generation Korean American Christian trauma therapist. As a clinical social worker, mental health advocate, and community mentor based in Los Angeles, CA, Hannah is dedicated to helping individuals heal from deep wounds. She specializes in psychotherapy and brainspotting through her private practice, Hanaro Therapy.
In this episode, Hannah brings her professional expertise and faith-based insights to help us navigate the tension between forgiveness and reconciliation with wisdom and grace.
Resources Mentioned & Recommended
- Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are by Lysa TerKeurst
- I Want to Trust You, but I Don’t: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment by Lysa TerKeurst
- Therapy and Theology Podcast
- #article Do You Have to Reconcile in Order to Forgive?
LISTEN NOW!
This episode will EMPOWER you, FREE you, and help you step into HEALING—without the weight of false guilt.
DON’T MISS THIS CONVERSATION!
Have a story or question? We’d love to hear from you! Email us at [email protected] and let’s continue erasing shame together.