Shame Assessment Quiz

Quiz Instructions

This quiz consists of 30 questions, Your answers will be kept confidential and no name or contact info will be requested or recorded.

Respond to each question by selecting True or False. When in doubt, base your response on the answer that appears most correct.

About This Quiz

It is not easy to assess your shame. Part of this difficulty lies in the fact that the more shame you have, the greater your denial with be. This Shame Indicator is a self-assessment tool that helps identify the level of your shame. As self-assessment is meant to be constructive and confidential, you must be committed to answering the questions honestly and thoughtfully in order to gain an accurate appraisal of your shame. The resulting information can then guide you in recovery.

* from "Looking Good Outside, Feeling Bad Inside: Freedom from the Shame That Hides the Real You" by Curtis Levang, Ph.D., pp. 9-12. (Source)

I have difficulty holding a job or maintaining a friendship for a long period of time.
I can not talk to my friends and family about my fears and disappointments.
I take myself too seriously.
I have a hard time believing that God can fully love & accept me.
I have great difficulty getting close to people.
I am more perfectionistic than I would like to be.
It is relatively easy for me to criticize members of my family, people at work or school, God, or myself.
I feel embarrassed or humiliated by certain things from my past.
When I make mistakes I feel bad for hours, even days.
I never allow myself to get angry.
I feel things must be done my way.
I feel down, hopeless, and overwhelmed a good deal of the time.
My family of origin did not encourage or nurture my self worth.
I don't accept compliments well.
If someone does me a favor, I worry about having to return it.
As a child I felt neglected or abused.
I find it difficult to trust that others will meet my needs.
I get defensive when others criticize me.
I have secrets that would surprise and shock others.
I rarely reveal my feelings.
I have trouble praying to God after I do something wrong.
When with my family of origin, I rarely feel as if I'm treated as an adult.
I am sure I have addictive qualities in my personality.
When I'm lost I find it difficult to ask for directions or help.
When things go wrong I have a hard time accepting blame.
I was teased and called names when I was young.
I feel that I get angrier or angry more often than most people.
I have been told that I have poor eye contact, slump my shoulders, or blush easily.
I find it hard to rest or relax without feeling guilty.
Growing up I received little of no support or praise for my accomplishments.