Shame Assessment Quiz

Quiz Instructions

This quiz consists of 30 questions, Your answers will be kept confidential and no name or contact info will be requested or recorded.

Respond to each question by selecting True or False. When in doubt, base your response on the answer that appears most correct.

About This Quiz

It is not easy to assess your shame. Part of this difficulty lies in the fact that the more shame you have, the greater your denial with be. This Shame Indicator is a self-assessment tool that helps identify the level of your shame. As self-assessment is meant to be constructive and confidential, you must be committed to answering the questions honestly and thoughtfully in order to gain an accurate appraisal of your shame. The resulting information can then guide you in recovery.

* from "Looking Good Outside, Feeling Bad Inside: Freedom from the Shame That Hides the Real You" by Curtis Levang, Ph.D., pp. 9-12. (Source)

I have great difficulty getting close to people.
When with my family of origin, I rarely feel as if I'm treated as an adult.
I don't accept compliments well.
I rarely reveal my feelings.
I feel down, hopeless, and overwhelmed a good deal of the time.
As a child I felt neglected or abused.
When things go wrong I have a hard time accepting blame.
When I make mistakes I feel bad for hours, even days.
I am sure I have addictive qualities in my personality.
I have a hard time believing that God can fully love & accept me.
I have trouble praying to God after I do something wrong.
It is relatively easy for me to criticize members of my family, people at work or school, God, or myself.
When I'm lost I find it difficult to ask for directions or help.
Growing up I received little of no support or praise for my accomplishments.
My family of origin did not encourage or nurture my self worth.
I feel things must be done my way.
I have difficulty holding a job or maintaining a friendship for a long period of time.
I feel that I get angrier or angry more often than most people.
I was teased and called names when I was young.
I take myself too seriously.
I find it hard to rest or relax without feeling guilty.
I am more perfectionistic than I would like to be.
I can not talk to my friends and family about my fears and disappointments.
I feel embarrassed or humiliated by certain things from my past.
I have secrets that would surprise and shock others.
I find it difficult to trust that others will meet my needs.
I never allow myself to get angry.
I get defensive when others criticize me.
If someone does me a favor, I worry about having to return it.
I have been told that I have poor eye contact, slump my shoulders, or blush easily.