Shame Assessment Quiz

Quiz Instructions

This quiz consists of 30 questions, Your answers will be kept confidential and no name or contact info will be requested or recorded.

Respond to each question by selecting True or False. When in doubt, base your response on the answer that appears most correct.

About This Quiz

It is not easy to assess your shame. Part of this difficulty lies in the fact that the more shame you have, the greater your denial with be. This Shame Indicator is a self-assessment tool that helps identify the level of your shame. As self-assessment is meant to be constructive and confidential, you must be committed to answering the questions honestly and thoughtfully in order to gain an accurate appraisal of your shame. The resulting information can then guide you in recovery.

* from "Looking Good Outside, Feeling Bad Inside: Freedom from the Shame That Hides the Real You" by Curtis Levang, Ph.D., pp. 9-12. (Source)

I get defensive when others criticize me.
I feel embarrassed or humiliated by certain things from my past.
I have great difficulty getting close to people.
I feel that I get angrier or angry more often than most people.
I have difficulty holding a job or maintaining a friendship for a long period of time.
When with my family of origin, I rarely feel as if I'm treated as an adult.
When things go wrong I have a hard time accepting blame.
I don't accept compliments well.
When I'm lost I find it difficult to ask for directions or help.
I take myself too seriously.
If someone does me a favor, I worry about having to return it.
I find it hard to rest or relax without feeling guilty.
I have secrets that would surprise and shock others.
It is relatively easy for me to criticize members of my family, people at work or school, God, or myself.
I am sure I have addictive qualities in my personality.
I have been told that I have poor eye contact, slump my shoulders, or blush easily.
I rarely reveal my feelings.
I can not talk to my friends and family about my fears and disappointments.
I never allow myself to get angry.
I have trouble praying to God after I do something wrong.
I have a hard time believing that God can fully love & accept me.
I feel things must be done my way.
I find it difficult to trust that others will meet my needs.
I feel down, hopeless, and overwhelmed a good deal of the time.
I was teased and called names when I was young.
When I make mistakes I feel bad for hours, even days.
As a child I felt neglected or abused.
I am more perfectionistic than I would like to be.
My family of origin did not encourage or nurture my self worth.
Growing up I received little of no support or praise for my accomplishments.