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Having a Dynamic Spiritual Life instead of a Dull one (s6e25)

Jenn Suen Chen (a spiritual director, international speaker, enneagram coach, and writer) joins DJ Chuang for a conversation series about spiritual life.

• Connect with Jenn Suen Chen via https://www.jennsuenchen.com

Spiritual Formation Series with Jenn Suen Chen

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Let’s talk about Mental and Emotional Health in New York City on March 18th

Phyllis Myung and DJ Chuang invites you to join us for this in-person event on March 18th, 2023 in New York City, New York – “Have You Eaten? A Mental & Emotional Health Symposium for Asian American Christians” – Register for free at asianamericanchristiancollaborative.com/health-symposium – space is limited

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How We’re Made to Belong to a Healthy Community and 5 Steps to Cultivating One (s6e23)

David Kim, author of the new book, “Made to Belong: Five Practices for Cultivating Community in a Disconnected World” shares his life experiences that led up to writing this valuable resource for church leaders and followers of Christ to practical and doable ways to overcome loneliness in our times. Recorded live on YouTube.

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David Kim’s website davidjanghyunkim.com + follow on Instagram @davidjanghyunkim

David Kim is discipleship pastor at WestGate Church (Silicon Valley, California)

David Kim’s other book: A Kids Book About Change – selected as #OprahsFavoriteThings list of 2020!

These Things Ruined My Life – David Kim’s video clip that went viral, which was excerpted from this May 2019 message, “Where Have You Been, and Where Are You Going?

One of the most commonly documented ailments of the modern soul is loneliness, which could be defined as “the emotional state of being disconnected.” But if that’s the problem, then how do we get authentic connection? Using details from his own journey as an immigrant to New York City, and then a transplant to Boston and then later, the Bay Area, pastor David Kim shares how a search for connection led him down false (and destructive) roads. He’ll also share how story of God in Genesis 16 helped him understand and live in the healing reality that he is seen, heard and valued.

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Talking about Spiritual Abuse to Begin Erasing Its Shame and Harm (s6e22)

Where do we even begin to tackle this huge topic? We’re going to begin by presenting the entire episode of The Same Boat Podcast that talks about Spiritual Abuse in the immigrant Asian church. This episode features a conversation with Dr. Roy Kim (Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist at New Legacy Family Counseling), Pastor Wilson Wang (lead pastor of Renew Church OC in Fullerton CA), and Jenna Fu. Thanks to The Same Boat Podcast for permission to syndicate their episode. 

Alternatively, watch the video of The Same Boat Podcast episode on Spiritual Abuse at youtube.com/watch?v=vuZWq-Nm7vg

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Roy Kim of New Legacy Family Counseling produces The Same Boat Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-same-boat/id1162528028 + Like on Facebook facebook.com/thesameboatpodcast

Wilson Wang is lead pastor of Renew Church OC and author of the “Called to Be” series and “The Adulting Journal”

Articles

What Is “Spiritual” Abuse? A Working Definition (Christianity Today)

2 articles by Thomas Hwang, pastor of Grace Hills Church (Buena Park, CA)

in Christianity Today “At Gracepoint Ministries, ‘Whole-Life Discipleship’ Took Its Toll – As the predominantly Asian American church network expands to dozens of college towns, former members come forward with claims of spiritual abuse.

at WBEZ Chicago “A church in Urbana-Champaign reverses on promises to address abuse allegations

SOLA Network Statement on Min Chung (Covenant Fellowship Church)

Meet the healers who are helping people recover from spiritual abuse reckon.news/news/2023/01/meet-the-healers-who-are-helping-people-recover-from-spiritual-abuse.html

Books

A Church Called Tov: Forming a Goodness Culture That Resists Abuses of Power and Promotes Healing by Scot McKnight and Laura Barringer

Escaping the Maze of Spiritual Abuse: Creating Healthy Christian Cultures by Lisa Oakley and Justin Humphrey

Organizations

Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment (GRACE) netgrace.org

Religious Trauma Institute religioustraumainstitute.com

And, One More

Understanding Spiritual Abuse w/Dr. Diane Langberg https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/understanding-spiritual-abuse-w-dr-diane-langberg/id1530814844?i=1000536984794 – on Off the Pulpit podcast

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Healing from trauma is possible and here’s where to start (s6e21)

Many of us Asians and Asian Americans have experienced trauma in our lives, from recent events as well as from past events, possibly even from generations past.

This short episode answers 2 basic questions: What is trauma? How do we begin to heal from our trauma?

Thanks to the Trauma Healing Institute traumahealingbasics.org and their free resources via Creative Commons share-alike license, they share 3 questions to ask someone who is hurting. Learn how to listen to people who are in pain.

And we close this episode with a reading of the Asian American Christian Collaborative Statement on the Gun Violence in Monterey Park and Half Moon Bay—https://www.asianamericanchristiancollaborative.com/statement-on-the-gun-violence-in-monterey-park-and-half-moon-bay

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Download free resources from traumahealingbasics.org:

  • Trauma Healing Basics Discussion Guide
  • 3 simple questions, and listening without offering judgment or solutions
  • Recognizing Trauma

Watch the videos

What is trauma? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJ5D4-OYpxo

Healing from Trauma https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e53Psjl0Pe0

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Why Becoming a Mother is So Challenging with Fertility Issues and More

#CW (content warning: this episode talks about infertility and sexuality)

Dr. Jessica Cho shares her experiences and research into options for women seeking to be a mother, but have infertility and fertility issues, and the many challenging considerations involved with options like domestic adoption through the child welfare system, foster children, international cross-cultural adoption, fertility treatment, or remaining childless. We talk about how this affects our faith and identity in Christ, and how God gives hope in the midst of one’s sorrows, griefs, and yearnings.

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Dr. Jessica Cho – A New Leaf Counseling

More Than Love: Adopting and Surviving Attachment Disorder Children by Sherril M. Stone

It Takes More than Love: A Christian Guide to Navigating the Complexities of Cross-Cultural Adoption by Brittany Salmon

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Improving Mental Health for Asian Americans and Our Pursuit of Happiness

Dr. David Chao shares about the pioneering work of the Center of Asian American Christianity at Princeton Theological Seminary that’s paving the way for Asian Americans to more fully experience the abundant life. These four main focal areas are: race, mental health, discipleship, and leadership.

And, you’re invited to join a free online conference on January 19, 2023, “The Pursuit of Asian American Happiness: Improving Mental Health in the Asian American Church” to get inspired and equipped – get more info and register at https://pts.events/2023-mental-health-conference/

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book: “Racial Melancholia, Racial Dissociation: On the Social and Psychic Lives of Asian Americans” by David L. Eng and Shinhee Han

Free Online Conference on January 19, 2023—”The Pursuit of Asian American Happiness: Improving Mental Health in the Asian American Church

Previously on Erasing Shame, watch or listen to how Lighthouse Counseling Network provides subsidized Christian therapy for Asian Americans erasingshame.com/how-asian-american-churches-and-christian-counselors-can-work-better-together/

Center for Asian American Christianity at Princeton Theological Seminary https://caac.ptsem.edu + their YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@centerforasianamericanchri1505/ + their podcast https://anchor.fm/ptscaac includes previous talks and presentations about Asian American Christian mental health

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How to have family time that is full of delight instead of duty (s6e18)

Yes we Asian and Asian Americans have strong family values, but that often comes out of duty rather than delight. For those of us who are young parents, the question to consider is this: when our children grow up, with they love being with us, or will it feel like an obligation?

Dr. Jessica Cho shares about how to grow relationships by practicing emotional availability during those early years of parenting young children, and how that’s so valuable in the long run. And then when those children become adults, the’ll love being with their parents, and vice versa, full of joy and delight and obliged to visit their parents out of duty.

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Dr. Jessica Cho – A New Leaf Counseling anewleafcounseling.org 

Background music = Cello Suite no. 1 – Prelude in G, BWV 1007 performed by Colin Carr is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 3.0. https://musopen.org/music/3998-cello-suite-no-1-in-g-major-bwv-1007/

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How to Get What You Really Want in a Marriage? (s6e17)

Dr. Jessica Cho chats with DJ Chuang about how marriage can be much more than a perfunctory or functional stage of life between adulting and parenting. Listen to this episode for how you can enjoy your marriage with your partner and experience the naked-and-unashamed intimacy that the Bible talks about in the beginning. Learn what emotional connectedness looks and feels like up close.

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Dr. Jessica Cho – A New Leaf Counseling anewleafcounseling.org 

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Family Time around Christmas Doesn’t Have to be Dramatic Like K-Drama

Jeanie Chang of Noona’s Noonchi chats with DJ Chuang about how the Christmas holidays is the annual tradition that gathers family together physically but sometimes it’s not the smoothest sleigh ride in town. How can being family time be a better opportunity for meaningful conversations and growing healthy relationships rather than steering into family drama? That’s what we talk about, having bite-sized morsels of intentional thoughts shared with kindness and firmness that have the potential to grow over time into the quality time, joy, and appreciation for the people we belong with in family.

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Noona’s Noonchi noonasnoonchi.com • “a deep dive of your favorite K-Dramas from a mental health perspective”

Connect with Jeanie Chang at Your Change Provider yourchangeprovider.com • speaker, therapist, author

Jeanie Chang’s book “A is for Authentic: Not for Anxieties or for Straight A’s” https://amzn.to/3v9EDBf

How Korean Culture Went Global on NPR’s Thoughtline npr.org/2022/09/06/1121364712/how-korean-culture-went-global

Background music = Cello Suite no. 1 – Prelude in G, BWV 1007 performed by Colin Carr is licensed under CC BY-NC-ND 3.0. https://musopen.org/music/3998-cello-suite-no-1-in-g-major-bwv-1007/