We give thanks for you, our viewers and listeners, as we enter the holiday season at the end of 2018. Holidays are family and relatives; and those memories can bring mixed emotions, highs and lows, amidst all the food and feasting. Maylee Chang and DJ Chuang talk about what those experiences might be like, especially when shame shows up, and how you can stay healthy and sane to better enjoy the holidays.
Adrian Pei, author of The Minority Experience, chats with Eunice Lee about race, power, privilege and pain in the minority experience. He discusses his own journey as an Asian-American in navigating large organizations and the injustices of not being heard and feeling “other.”
Adrian talks about the journey that our brothers and sisters of color in paving the way for Asian-American voices to be heard, and the reality that the decisions of diversity are not just a strategic decision, but an emotional one.
Eunice and Adrian dialogue about the realities of the gift and pain of the minority experience, their own stories of pain and solutions for change.
You can find his book at http://www.minoritybook.com
Margaret Yu (National Director of Epic Movement, the Asian American ministry of Cru) talks with DJ Chuang about how leaders can be debilitated by shame and become derailed. Not good. But there’s an antidote to shame that can help the leader to be honest with their humanity, to confess the occasional mistake, and to recover their rational capacity in order to better serve the organization, people, and community.
Connect with Margaret Yu margaretyu.com and on Twitter @CCCEPICMargaret
Dr. Kristin Neff (University of Texas at Austin) has posted resources at self-compassion.org. Take this self-compassion test to see how self compassionate you are.
“… breakthrough research done on self-compassion by researcher and social psychologist Kristin Neff from the University of Texas at Austin. Among other things, Neff discovered that self-compassion can act as an antidote to self-criticism—a major characteristic of those who experience intense shame.” from “How Compassion Can Heal Shame from Childhood: The Antidote to Shame” in Psychology Today, 2013.
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Kristin Neff, PhD (2015)
Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown: The link between guilt-proneness and leadership by Rebecca L. Schaumberg, Francis J. Flynn.
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. August 2012, 103:2, 327-342.
Why Feelings of Guilt May Signal Leadership Potential (Insights by Stanford Business, 2012) refers to the Schaumberg research above.
Although “guilt” and “shame” may seem quite similar to most people — and both are indeed negative responses to knowing you did something wrong — psychologists recognize a crucial distinction between the two: Whereas someone who feels guilty feels bad about a specific mistake and wants to make amends, a person who’s ashamed of a mistake feels bad about himself or herself and shrinks away from the error.
Maylee Chang and DJ Chuang grapple with understanding both the positive and the negative aspects of shame. Yes, of course, shame is a painful feeling. But it so much more than that. Towards the end of the episode, we count up at least 5 positive aspects of shame when respond with honest talk and healthy choices.
Maylee Chang and DJ Chuang have an honest talk about how refugees experience the hardest life challenges, resulting in trauma, and how some are able to move out of survival mode and towards a healthier life of relationships and dealing with past memories
On this episode of Erasing Shame, Dr. Pang Rhodes joins host DJ Chuang to have an honest talk about Hmong Americans, community, and shame.
Dr. Pang Foua Yang Rhodes is an Assistant Professor at Argosy University and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, specializing in premarital and couples therapy, spiritual development, and immigrant mental health. She has a doctorate in Family Social Science from the University of Minnesota and a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy from Fuller Theological Seminary.
Dr. Pang Rhodes’ blog is at www.drpangfoua.com
Dr. Rhodes gave a popular talk, “Secrets from “the Other Woman: What Wives Can Do to Create a Healthy Marriage” at the 2013 Empowering Hmong Women’s Conference
Erasing Shame co-hosts DJ Chuang and Maylee Chang welcomes everyone to a new season of honest talk about healthy living. We mention different aspects of shame, Crazy Rich Asians, and Clint Eastwood too. Plus, we did share about topics we will cover and reveal the name of one very special guest in upcoming episodes.
Summer series finale with Jeremiah Chuang and DJ Chuang
- Watch the episode with Hanna’s story, What If Saving Sex for Marriage Wasn’t So Great?
- Watch the entire summer series via this YouTube playlist—Erasing Shame about Mental Health in Asian American Communities
- Watch and listen to Season 1 of Erasing Shame
ABOUT THE SERIES:
Our summer series, Erasing Shame about Mental Health, released a new episode every week during Summer 2018! We are having honest talk about healthy living, by Asian Americans for Asian Americans and everyone else too.
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• Made possible by California Mental Health Services Authority http://calmhsa.org in collaboration with Asian American Christian Counseling Service http://aaccs.org and support from viewers like you!
• Produced by the Erasing Shame Team—DJ Chuang, Natalie Hsieh, Eunice Lee
• Interview by Jeremiah Chuang
• Recorded on Facebook Live